Getting into a serious relationship, and especially a marriage, is one of the most interesting concepts and serious commitments a person can do.
It is especially interesting to me, because I am such a control freak. I like everything in my life to be in order. And in general, I can keep it that way, even when other people are involved.
If I live with other people and I want the couch cushions a certain way, and they move them when I’m gone, I can always come home and fix them back how I wanted them. The fact that they were moved when I wasn’t there is annoying, but not hurtful because those cushions don’t owe me anything, and couldn’t control what they were doing. The people who move them, on the other hand, is a different story.
When things are out of your control and in the hands of another, you just have to have faith that they will work out how you want them to.
A similar concept applies to kids. When you have children, at some point you have to let them go and make their own decisions that you can’t control, and you have to have faith that they will do what you hope they will do.
But the difference is, even if they don’t do what you hoped, it may be disappointing, but it isn’t the heartbreaking feeling that comes with giving your heart to a spouse.
No, giving your heart to the one you love is a whole different thing entirely.